“There’s no cancel culture for men like this. There is only reinvention”. ALL OF THIS!!! I’ve experienced sexual assault from a man in the music industry. He’s my ex boyfriend. We are both vocalists and sang in the same band. When I told people in the leader of the band and people in the music industry I wasn’t believed. I was told how could he choke you and you survive it, he’s so much bigger than you!? I was called stupid and I was treated like what I went didn’t matter to them because it didn’t and still doesn’t. I basically watched all of the people in the industry who I thought were my friends take his side. They know he’s not a good dude but they still took his side. I guess because he has more of a name and he could possibly get them work in the music industry. I took him to court for choking me while him and I were singing in the same band standing right next to each other every weekend. Everyone knew what was going on and no one cared. He was still looked at like THE MAN! And I was ignored.
I’ll stop there because I could say so much more.
This article is so on point! Thank you for sharing the truth about these situations. It’s good to know that there are people out there who actually care. 🙏🏾🙏🏾💞💞
When I say I can relate!!!! I am so sorry this happened and I know there’s nothing a sorry can fix but I am more than honored that you shared this with me.
I went through the same situation. I was dating a local rapper in Houston when I experienced such a huge amount of abuse. I was forced to leave him, THANK GOD. (Shoutout to my mom)! When I had the courage to speak out about what happened I was called a lair.
I had to walk away from business deals, I had to cut off “friends” that he befriended to tell them I was lying, and I lost all of the confidence I had in myself.
I still beat myself up for not sending him to jail or blasting his name. Even with the courage I have about standing for abuse I feel so guilty that I can’t say his or any of my abusers names but I will do everything in my power to bring this industry of abuse to their knees!!
WOW Sis!!! I totally get it!!! I’m so sorry you had this experience Sis. 🙏🏾
And same. My ex told people that I was lying. He did a whole smear campaign on me and people turned away from me. And even though I took him to court for choking me I felt guilty because I thought I was taken a black man down and ruining his career even though he didn’t give a damn about my life. So I ended up caving and dropping the charges.
This exposes what most industry ‘reckonings’ refuse to touch: how narrative capital is used to protect abusers. Playing a Diddy track isn’t neutral, it’s endorsement dressed as nostalgia.
“There’s no cancel culture for men like this. There is only reinvention”. ALL OF THIS!!! I’ve experienced sexual assault from a man in the music industry. He’s my ex boyfriend. We are both vocalists and sang in the same band. When I told people in the leader of the band and people in the music industry I wasn’t believed. I was told how could he choke you and you survive it, he’s so much bigger than you!? I was called stupid and I was treated like what I went didn’t matter to them because it didn’t and still doesn’t. I basically watched all of the people in the industry who I thought were my friends take his side. They know he’s not a good dude but they still took his side. I guess because he has more of a name and he could possibly get them work in the music industry. I took him to court for choking me while him and I were singing in the same band standing right next to each other every weekend. Everyone knew what was going on and no one cared. He was still looked at like THE MAN! And I was ignored.
I’ll stop there because I could say so much more.
This article is so on point! Thank you for sharing the truth about these situations. It’s good to know that there are people out there who actually care. 🙏🏾🙏🏾💞💞
When I say I can relate!!!! I am so sorry this happened and I know there’s nothing a sorry can fix but I am more than honored that you shared this with me.
I went through the same situation. I was dating a local rapper in Houston when I experienced such a huge amount of abuse. I was forced to leave him, THANK GOD. (Shoutout to my mom)! When I had the courage to speak out about what happened I was called a lair.
I had to walk away from business deals, I had to cut off “friends” that he befriended to tell them I was lying, and I lost all of the confidence I had in myself.
I still beat myself up for not sending him to jail or blasting his name. Even with the courage I have about standing for abuse I feel so guilty that I can’t say his or any of my abusers names but I will do everything in my power to bring this industry of abuse to their knees!!
WOW Sis!!! I totally get it!!! I’m so sorry you had this experience Sis. 🙏🏾
And same. My ex told people that I was lying. He did a whole smear campaign on me and people turned away from me. And even though I took him to court for choking me I felt guilty because I thought I was taken a black man down and ruining his career even though he didn’t give a damn about my life. So I ended up caving and dropping the charges.
You’re doing Gods work Sis! Keep on exposing 💯💯💯
Omg I felt!!! It so hard being abused and black!
This exposes what most industry ‘reckonings’ refuse to touch: how narrative capital is used to protect abusers. Playing a Diddy track isn’t neutral, it’s endorsement dressed as nostalgia.
A word! I’m tired of the bullshit!
👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾